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The Journal of Consumer Research says in its article, 'The Fire of Desire: A Multi-sited Inquiry in Consumer Passion', that “there is spreading consensus that much, if not all, consumption has been quite wrongly characterised as involving need fulfilment, utility maximisation, and reasoned choices”.

Think of services or experiences you’ve had that were astounding in how they impacted you. There is a desire to repeat those experiences – most likely not only because of the utility of what was delivered, but because of how you were related to, and treated, and made to feel.

Let’s say, for example, that a company is in the business of making plastic drinking cups for children. While on the surface this may sound like a trivial matter, it is not, as anyone with children knows. The right drinking cup can play a leading role in getting a child to sleep and making meal time a relatively peaceful endeavour. Traditional customer focus groups determine what type of cup a company should manufacture by bringing a group of customers together and placing several on the table. The facilitators ask every customer, “Which cup do you prefer?” Each customer then picks a cup. But that doesn’t mean any cup is best for them. Maybe one customer needs a cup with a straw, but the company didn’t take the time to learn about their customers’ lives. In the absence of getting what was right, customers picked what was available.

Beloved companies start with the customer instead of the cup. They yearn to understand the emotions of the young mum who is buying the cup – to understand what solution she’d desire rather than just settle for. They learn about her life and what she needs and then build a solution from her point of view. Product development solutions made on auto-pilot are turned on their ear when customer needs, emotions and desires become the inspiration for product and service development. Within the beloved companies, their curiosity for understanding customer emotions in every interaction informs decision making.

As consumers, we’re conditioned to take what’s available. Beloved companies work hard every day to put a stop to that. They go beyond executing tasks. They’re in it to deliver an experience their customers desire. Even how they learn what customers yearn for sets them apart. In this instance, it is not the utility of buying a cup that compels a young mother to go shopping; it’s her desire to help her child’s development, or to get him or her to sleep, or to not have to wipe up the floor 20 times a day. The companies that go beyond meeting the obvious utility of 'needing a cup', as in this example, reach the underlying emotions and needs of their customers. These companies build lasting bonds with their customers. They are the ones remembered with fondness long after the children are grown, because for a period of time they were an important part of their customers’ lives.

A simple way to remember this is: the everyday company is selling cups; the beloved company is supporting parenthood.

Find out more about Jeanne, at CustomerBliss.

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About Jeanne Bliss

Jeanne, a keynote speaker and best-selling author, has spent 25 years leading the customer experience for Lands' End, Coldwell Banker, Allstate, Mazda and Microsoft. She founded CustomerBliss in order to create clarity and an actionable path for driving the customer loyalty commitment into business operations.

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